Self Esteem

NLP: 5 Steps to Have A Good Relationship With Yourself and Build Your Self-Esteem   by Emmanuel Segui

In the best-selling book of all times, a visionary leader advised: “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” Lots of people know this ancient scripture contained in the Bible, but a few actually understand it or apply it correctly to their lives.

So many people have bought the Bible, tried to apply its teaching and still don’t get this. The above quote is to be the second most important commandment given by Jesus, the visionary leader. He asked us to love others. And in the same declaration he commanded us to love ourselves. So my question to you is: “Are you in love with yourself? “, “Do you feel that you can stand up in front of your bathroom mirror and say to yourself “I love and honor who you are”?

Bottom line, in order for you to cultivate healthy relationships with others, you must have a good relationship with yourself. You need to feel compassion for yourself.

Compassion means feeling empathy and having a true understanding of what you’re going through. You may have compassion for others but do you have compassion for yourself? If you don’t have compassion for yourself you may also find that you don’t have compassion for others.

Compassion includes 3 keys – understanding, acceptance and forgiveness. These 3 qualities or states of mind can be applied to your life under any circumstances.

Follow this NLP process and the next 5 steps to continue loving yourself even more.

1. Think of a specific situation that makes you feel poor about yourself. How many details can you remember? Was there someone with you at that moment? Were you alone, reflecting?

2. Understand. Whether it is an understanding of something important about yourself or someone else, true understanding gives you a fresh new perspective. Try to put yourself in the position of the other person. If it only involves yourself, step back and reflect on your thinking. Ask yourself if your judgment is accurate. See things from different perspectives.

3. Acceptance. Acceptance is simply an acknowledgement, without making any judgment. Acceptance asks us to accept without approving or disapproving. To truly accept you need to set aside any preconceived notions, ideas or concepts and simply accept. Make as if you were an alien that doesn’t know anything about this planet and how humans work. Just accept without judging. I give you permission just for this exercise. After that you can make a judgment if you want. Do we have a deal?

4. Forgiveness. Forgiveness flows naturally from understanding and acceptance. Without understanding and acceptance it is hard to forgive. Forgiveness will allow you to move forward in your life without dwelling on a misunderstanding or mistake.

5. Smile. Smiling releases tension. Smiling is a medicine by itself. Smile and continue smiling knowing that this is another way to continue loving yourself.

This NLP process will help you to feel more love for yourself. After esteeming yourself, the next step is to love yourself, unconditionally.

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